23.11.13

A Letter To Myself

Dear DebbZie,

I've been waiting the right moment to write a letter for you and since today is your special day, I'd like you to read this...
I often see you as a person who's not comfortable with yourself. You lost your confidence because of  mean things people said to you since your childhood. You were struggling to grow up in a community where people judge based on appearance.
"You are Chinese but your skin is so dark, are you adopted?"
"You're short and chubby."
"Your mom is beautiful. How come you don't look like her at all?"

darkest skin among the family

Their comments hurt your feeling very deep and it has changed the way you think about life. Suddenly all those trophies you've won from various competition didn't matter anymore. You ignored all the achievements you've accomplished.You started taking diet pills from a very young age. That's because you grew up with an idea that beautiful means skinny body, fair skin and long straight hair.

As you're getting older you often feel lost. You look at your reflection on the mirror and thought you actually are not ugly at all, but nasty comments keep coming and saying otherwise.
"Why are you still single? You're getting old and you're expiring soon, you know?" (as if you are some kind of canned food which has an expiry date).
"You're fat. You must lose some weight if you want to get a boyfriend."
"You will be lonely for the rest of your life."
The wound in your heart is getting deeper and deeper. You're very sad yet you refuse to show it to the world. Cheerful smiles never faded from your face, little did they know you have spent countless times crying and feeling shattered.

Dear DebbZie,

Please stop being too hard to yourself. You may not skinny, tall and have a supermodel face but believe me, you're beautiful just they way you are. You just need to love yourself more. Even though you're very stubborn person, rebel, forgetful, moody and undisciplined, still you deserve to be happy. You should appreciate all the good things you've done. It's fine to focus on more useful things than just your appearance and worrying about other people's thought. It's your life, you don't need to prove anything to anyone. Just do things that make you happy, like rescuing and feeding the street dogs or visiting the orphanage. They never fail to put a smile on your face, right?

adorable kids at the orphanage

taking the hit and run victim to the animal hospital

they're happy to have a place called home
don't be sad, let's play with us!
my new bed is so comfy
 And don't you forget about some accomplishments that you should be proud of. Earlier this year you were invited to be one of the speakers of a cool travel event called Wego Hangout. As a person who's lack of self confidence, you dread public speaking. But you fought it and braved yourself to share your stories in front of the audience. You were also interviewed and featured in Joy magazine and some of your works have been published on book and magazine. 


nervous but you did it!

awesome people


featured in magazine
  




When in doubt, just remember all these good things that happened in your life. Ignore the people who have negative influence in your life and stick to those who always support you no matter what. 

Happy birthday to you! Wishing you many fabulous travel adventures ahead. Let's repeat your mantra every year. Age is just a number and you are as old as you feel.



taking a nap on the roof of Milan Cathedral


I love you, myself
           D

29 comments:

  1. I love this and can relate to going through mean comments that people unintentionally say. I'm glad that you're able to fight through that because you've done some amazing things!

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    1. Thanks, Michelle. Somehow I'm glad I've been through some rough times because it made me stronger :)

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  2. You're beautiful just the way you are. You are inspiring woman, lho.

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    1. Thanks for the kind words, Bob :)

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  3. Dear Debbie,
    I think you're an inspiration to many people and don't you dare stop being yourself, everyone else is taken.
    Keep being your cheery self and enjoy the little things in life. Happy birthday!

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    1. Thanks so much, Aggy.
      Having a friend like you is a blessing for me :*

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  4. I think you are as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside. I admire you for all you have achieved and wish you all the luck in the world in the future. You have a loving, kind heart and are a sweetheart. Happy birthday wonderful girl, I wish you many many more gloriously happy ones.xxxx

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    1. Thanks so much, Dina. Your kind words means a lot to me xxxx

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  5. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you :) Happy Birthday you special one !

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    1. and you're one of those people who bring out the best of me. Thanks kakak *hugs*

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  6. Happy bday Debbzie...you are a multi talented person, and pls always stay that way :)

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  7. kyaa... inspiring!!
    i like the quote "Single is not a status, it is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others!!"

    wish my parents read this quote #sigh
    lol,

    thanks ya Mba Deb, (anyway we have same name)
    and wish you all the best :)

    Debby Curly.

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    1. Thank youuuu, Debby Curly.
      If you are happy being a single then it's all that matter. I know it's not easy though. I think I've heard hundreds of negative comment because I'm not married yet.
      But now I'm learning to ignore them. It's my life lho, not theirs :)

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  8. Happy Birthday Deb! Kata siapa dirimu gak cantik? Ihh.. Terlalu sirik ut mengakui sih itu.. *jadi esmosi* :D

    Negative people mah kelaut aja deh.. Dirimu inspiring abis :D

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    1. Makasih ya, Py :)
      Aku kadang ga ngerti kenapa orang suka menghina orang lain tanpa mikir perkataan mereka bisa melukai perasaan. Atau dengan begitu mereka jadi happy ya?

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  9. Life should be all about sunshine and butterflies. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Though I just met you once I know that you have a beautiful soul. Happy belated birthday DebbZie!

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    1. Thankies, Firsta. I guess all I have to do is stay away from those 'kepoh' people, ya :p

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  10. Happy Birthday!
    Aku juga chinese dan gelap juga, modal jadi chinesenya cuma mata yang sipit. kalau ketemu org biasanya suka ditanya "pribumi atau chinese?" pengennya sih jawab "menurut loe?" eh tapi gak berani XD yang bikin ngenes pny adik kandung yang dielu-elukan "cantik ya", "beda ya sama cicinya". -_________________-

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    1. Thank youuu ^^
      Ya gitu dech, orang kadang mencela tanpa mikirin perasaan yang lain. Manusia memang aneh2 ya :p

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  11. dulu jaman SMA pernah dibilangin guru gini: kamu adeknya si anu ya kok kakaknya cakep adeknya jelek... (pengen rasanya nyemplung sumur). tapi sudahlah setiap manusia itu unik kok... ga cakep bukan berarti jelek, tapi kalo jelek ya jelek (mandang cermin ngenes)

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    1. Yang sabar ya, Kak *puk puk*
      Emang paling males kalo dibanding2in ama yang lain.
      Padahal ukuran cakep atau jelek itu cuma stereotype bikinan masyarakat doank :(

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    2. Tapi kalo cakep itu enak diliat kakak hahaha #melipir btw setiap manusis punya kelebihan masing2 dan tinggal bagaimana kita mensyukuri apa yg diberikan Tuhan menjadi sebuah berkah buat hidup kita dan orang lain :-)

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    3. wihhhh mas Cumi bijak sekali *sembah* hihihihi

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  12. Sorry if I'm late, but happy birthday Deb, just like other comments (and Bruno Mars, of course), you're amazing just the way you are.
    Oh, and I was in your position when I was a child, being bullied by some of my friends, like "ugly" "black" "short" and "handsome", okay the last one is from my mom. But I strive to become me like now, still ugly black short guy tho, but with pride. LOL.

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    1. yeah, nowadays I just tell myself to ignore those comments :)

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  13. Halo, salam kenal ya..

    I can related.. Tapi u ga gemuk ah, aku lbh gemuk kayaknya.. And yes aku juga ngalamin komentar2 negatif sehubungan fisik aku..

    Sedih sih tapi ya sekarang aku dah cuek.. ( meski terus berusaha diet)

    Tapi aku suka loh baca blog nya, menginspirasi.. Keep up a good work ya... :)

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    1. Hai Carolina! Thanks udah mampir sini dan salam kenal juga :D

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  14. ada pepatah "The dogs are barking, the caravan moves on", (bener gk ya tulisanya), orang lain hanya tau keburukan kita, apa mrk tau kebaikan kita, mbk bny membuat inspirasi buat bny orang, so, orang yg gk suka ama mbk adalah orang yg sirik atas keberhasilan mbk, msh bny orang di luar sana yg suka ama mbk ( maybe you do not know or are not sensitive ) but i just say " be yourself " and just do it, what do you want
    (maaf ya bahasa ya gado2, maklum br belajar bhs inggris wkwk..kl ada salah mohon diperbaiki, tp jgn ditertawakan ya ) D:

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